Chap – 2 Baby Bug

The baby bug hits you one bright average day.

You or Mom need a kid. This urge and want for a child overwhelms the once calm couple. If you, the male are the source of the want, life is still calm. It’s not your call. If the future Mom is the source of the want, then you may be having fun going about creating a new life, but it can also be a second job. Your loved one has her mind set on being impregnated.  This can be stressful if things don’t go as planned. This stress can make make it more difficult, but that is another story, for maybe another book.

Future Mom and Dad get to it. Dad does a few seconds, well, let us not exaggerate, a few minutes sweaty work, and Mom gets what she needs to begin a new life.  This is when it is a planned job. There are of course many cases of unplanned jobs that end up with the same beginning of a new life. Planning is not what makes it happen. Biology is.

If the job is a planned one, Mom will have bought a home pregnancy test.  Maybe Dad bought it, but, only because Mom told him too. You both wait a few days. Well you, Dad, may have forgot already about the job, but Mom didn’t. She waits and is excited a few days after her period is late she tests herself. A simple urine test that if positive may show that the first new journey begins.   First, because there are usually more to come.

If the job was not planned Mom will also notice she missed her period. You will not notice, but will wonder how the fun carries on longer than usual without the period of interruption.  There will not be a home pregnancy test available at home.  One of you will go out and get one.  And, planned or not a positive result will probably indicate the beginning of a new life.

Mom sets an appointment with her gynecologist and blood tests are run, and the positive result is confirmed. Mom is pregnant.

Author note – This book deals with a successful no hatches attached pregnancy. There are many others that do not come to an end, or are problematic. They are also part of life, but not part of this book.

Mom’s pregnancy is the center of life.  There are Moms who carry on as usual, work, home, having fun. Then there are those that are hysterical about any sniffle or sneezing kid around them.

Depending on the society and country that you live in Mom now goes through arrays of tests. Some include Genetic tests to assure that there are no deformities or hidden genetic syndromes, such as down syndrome.  Blood tests to see if Mom is immune or hasn’t been infected by viruses such as CMV and Toxoplasma during pregnancy. Other tests, can include that is if necessary, tests for Gestational Diabetics as well. If the genetic tests are inconclusive then Amniotic Fluid tests could be recommended . Today woman also can choose to have Amniotic fluid tested as extra assurance, even if all other tests are fine. And, well if amniotic fluid is tested then why not test the fetus DNA and see if really all is fine. In all a whole industry of tests.

What is important is that you have a good physician and you follow the recommendations.

There are quite a lot of visits that Mom, accompanied by Dad, makes to the doctor. Ultrasounds to check the fetus and follow its progress are done to ensure that the baby is developing correctly.

Dad, go with Mom. See your kid in Mom’s belly. It’s a great experience and bonds you even more as a couple.

Today’s world enables the Mom, who can be, a bit hysterical, go through a myriad of tests. But this is not a medical journal, or an advisory board as what to do. Do what the medical professionals tell you, not this book.

This is a book about the new upcoming Dad.  It doesn’t really matter what category Mom falls into, the working Mom who carries on work and life as if she is not pregnant, or the hysterical Mom who may also be working. It doesn’t matter if your pregnant wife craves for the weirdest things (usually food- you would like something else but that “else” could be a rarity) or acts normal. She is the center of life and all attention. She is a going to be Mom. You just handed over something She needed. Yes, that’s the essence of it. Luckily, Mom’s don’t realize that otherwise the males of our species would be more like in the Elephant society. There the Matriarch’s truly rule. Our Mom’s still keep us around and sometimes let us think we rule the home.

If this is the first baby then there is also the “getting ready”, and a list of items for the new addition is prepared. Some will prepare the room for the baby and purchase all the necessities. A new crib, a stroller with all the parts, a set of drawers, changing tables. Lots of stuff. You still don’t understand the change in your calm and care-free universe. You may think you do, your woman is pregnant and different.

Take it as it is – you have no idea.

The nine months of pregnancy are over in no time. Mom’s water breaks. It can be at work during the day, but for some treason, and more often than not, it seems (no scientific data here, only feelings) to happen at night or early morning. Any time not planned. Mom is rushed to hospital. You already know which hospital as everything is planned.